A portrait of Sexuality

the5thkellement: wild-soulchild: enchantedlotus: mrsmelchiorga...

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 11:13:07 -0400

wild-soulchild:

enchantedlotus:

mrsmelchiorgabor:

this is what heterophobia would look like if it was real. if you believe that heterophobia is a real thing that exists, please watch this because you will see that it simply doesn’t exist, that it never has and never will.

tbh I think everyone should watch this anyway because it’s very clever and very powerful

This is so powerful. Please watch.

wow this made me cry.

a friend of a friend produced this to illustrate the effects of bullying on teens, particularly those living with LBGTQ orientation. what does a world look like when you judged for who you love, or you’re not allowed to love who you love simply because it isn’t right by society’s standards? well, welcome to this existence. only, now it may seem like it actually affects you.

Trigger Warning; violence, bullying, suicide.

themyskira: Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 11:10:10 -0400

themyskira:

Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)

221cbakerstreet: thatferrybroad: wliabl: Cleopatra’s...

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 11:09:16 -0400

221cbakerstreet:

thatferrybroad:

wliabl:

Cleopatra’s Underwater Palace, Egypt

I still don’t get why no one is LOSING THEIR FUCKING SHIT OVER THIS FIND

iT SURVIVED THE EARTHQUAKE THAT LEVELED THE REST OF THE CITY IN 365 A.D.

CLEOPATRA’S FUCKING PALACE

WITH INTACT FUCKING STATUARY

NOT TO MENTION THE REST OF THE FUCKING ENTIRE GODDAMN ISLAND OF ANTIRRHODOS INCLUDING THE ANCIENT PORT OF ALEXANDRIA

AND THEY’RE GONNA BUILD A MOTHERFUCKING UNDERWATER MUSEUM

UNDERWATER. MUSEUM.

can I be a mermaid tour guide there or some shit, you don’t even have to pay me i will just live there forever oh my fucking god

that’s really exciting

deepredroom: red3blog: juicyjacqulyn: effffffffffasinfat: Sou...

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 10:57:03 -0400

deepredroom:

red3blog:

juicyjacqulyn:

effffffffffasinfat:

Sounds like someone has a case of “nice guy” syndrome :P

ugh…. gross…

misogynists masquerading as “nice guys”

nope and nope

Sooooo… is the message the Nice Guy™ photoshop wizard is trying to convey that “Good Guys” are an alien species that feels entitled to invade the women’s space for its own edification, while the “Asshole” is a companion species that offers a mutually beneficial relationship?

They may have accidentally had a moment of self-awareness.

Pretty sure the “good guy” also eats those fish, hence why they’re avoiding him. The “asshole” doesn’t eat those fish and is pretty gentle to them, hence why they feel safe enough to hold onto them. What a nice asshole.

cuteosphere: ♥ BB GUN : MAGIC EYE GIRLFRIEND ♥ …i didn’t...

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 10:55:52 -0400

cuteosphere:

♥ BB GUN : MAGIC EYE GIRLFRIEND ♥

…i didn’t cry drawing it…

"My daughter wasn’t bullied to death, she was disappointed to death. Disappointed in people she..."

Sat, 27 Apr 2013 10:49:14 -0400

““My daughter wasn’t bullied to death, she was disappointed to death. Disappointed in people she thought she could trust, her school, and the police. She was my daughter, but she was your daughter too. For the love of God do something.””

- Glen Canning, father of Rehtaeh Parsons • In a new op-ed/statement published by the Huffington Post on Thursday. Parsons died on Sunday night, following a suicide attempt which is believed to have been the result of extensive post-rape bullying. Be warned, while we definitely think more people should see the grieving father’s words, you won’t find an easy read behind the source link. source (via shortformblog)

Reblog if you can, guys. The world needs to know what happened to this girl. Read the source.

(via repsychus)

Video

Thu, 21 Mar 2013 18:42:16 -0400

"TRIGGER WARNING: The following includes descriptions, photos, and video that may serve as a trigger..."

Thu, 21 Mar 2013 18:24:33 -0400

“

TRIGGER WARNING:

The following includes descriptions, photos, and video that may serve as a trigger for victims of sexual violence.
Please be advised.

”

- http://rantagainsttherandom.wordpress.com/2013/03/19/so-youre-tired-of-hearing-about-rape-culture/

anarcho-queer: New York City Cops Will Arrest You For Carrying...

Sat, 09 Mar 2013 08:26:30 -0500

anarcho-queer:

New York City Cops Will Arrest You For Carrying Condoms

The woman asked Officer Hill why he was stopping her.

She wore jean shorts and a tight red shirt and had stood outdoors for half an hour. She’d had a conversation with a passing man. When Officer Hill searched her bag, he found a condom and $1.25.

He arrested her for “loitering for the purpose of prostitution.” On the supporting deposition, he filled in the blanks for what she was wearing and how many condoms she had.

When I read over the deposition in the PROS Network’s Public Health Crisis (PDF), a study of how the NYPD arrests folks for carrying condoms, I thought of all the tight shirts I’d worn while idling outside on delicious spring days. I thought, She sounds like me. She sounds like my friends.

The NYPD will arrest you for carrying condoms, but that depends entirely on who you are. If you’re a middle-class white girl like me, you’re probably safe. But say you’re a sex worker or a queer kid kicked out of your home. Say you’re a trans woman out for dinner with your boyfriend. Maybe you’ve been arrested as a sex worker before. Maybe some quota-filling cop thinks you look like a whore.

Then you’re not safe at all.

Like most laughably cruel tricks of the justice system, you probably wouldn’t know that you could be arrested for carrying condoms until it happened to you. Monica Gonzalez is a nurse and a grandmother. In 2008, Officer Sean Spencer arrested her for prostitution while she was on the way to the ER with an asthma attack. The condom he found on her turned out to be imaginary. Gonzalez sued the city after the charges were dropped. But if the condom were real, why should she have even been arrested at all?

Arrest is always violent. The NYPD may or may not break your ribs, but the process of arrest in America is still a man tying your hands behind your back at gunpoint and locking you in a cage. Holding cells are shit-encrusted boxes, often too crowded to sit down. Police can leave you there for three days; long enough to lose your job. If this seems obvious, I say it because the polite middle classes trivialize arrest. They talk about “keeping people off the streets.” They don’t realize that the constant threat of arrest is traumatic, unless it happens to them or their kids.

Prostitution is only a misdemeanor in New York, but a conviction will knock you off food stamps and out of subsidized housing. While society feigns wanting sex workers to change their profession, it does everything it can to keep them where they are. Most prostitution defendants plea bargain. Too broke and scared to fight, men and women agree to charges that will follow them for life.

There are two types of prostitution arrests. For “prostitution,” the officer has to witness you making an offer, but “loitering for the purposes of engaging in a prostitution offense” requires only circumstantial evidence. On the supporting depositions, officers answer a checklist. Were you standing in an area known for prostitution? According to Karina Claudio, a lead organizer at the community group Make the Road, these areas can be anywhere. Were you dressed provocatively? Did you speak to a guy? Were you standing next to someone who has been arrested for prostitution? Were you carrying condoms?

Claudio says, “There’s obviously a problem with a law so broad that if you are walking with a tight shirt in ‘a place where prostitution happens,’ you can be stopped. It’s like Russian roulette.”

And you’re far more likely to be stopped if you’re trans.

In a study conducted by Make the Road, 59 percent of their trans respondents had been stopped by the police. Cristina, a trans woman out clubbing with her boyfriend, was accused of prostitution when cops found condoms in her bra. Let’s just pause for a moment to imagine the groping that led to this discovery.

The cops refused to believe that her guy wasn’t a client. Claudio says, “This happens to our members for walking while trans. They’re going to stores, clubs, restaurants, and they get profiled as sex workers because of their gender identity and expression.”

That’s how you get arrested for carrying condoms when you’re not a sex worker. But, let’s say you are a sex worker. You’re carrying condoms to protect your health and that of your clients. You may have gotten the condoms from the city itself. New York distributes 40 million condoms a year. The city has its own condom brand, its logo spelled out in the bright letters they use to mark subway lines.

So, you’re arrested. The proof needed to lock you up is that you’re carrying one of these city-branded, city-distributed devices.

If the cops don’t arrest you, they have a habit of confiscating your condoms.

The PROS Network’s study is filled with gutting stories. A 37-year-old white woman in Coney Island says, “I was locked up because I had a condom. I wasn’t even prostituting. They took the condom.“ A gender queer Puerto Rican sex worker, 22, says, “I’m damned if I do, I’m damned if I don’t. I don’t want to get any disease, but I do want to make my money. Why do they take our condoms? Do they want us to die?”

How does something so egregious keep happening? Because sex workers don’t matter.

Sex workers matter. They matter to their friends and partners, their kids, their parents, their communities. But sex workers don’t matter to power, even if power is paying a sex worker to dress it up in diapers every Wednesday.

Horrors are acceptable when they’re not happening to the dominant class.

NInety percent of people who are stopped and frisked are of color. Because of the work of community organizations, the mainstream media finally reports that the NYPD has been filling their arrest quotas by searching for weed under black teenagers’ testicles. They now report that, in a Clean Halls building, you could be slammed up against the wall, or even arrested, because you didn’t carry your ID when you were dumping the trash. If drugs and weapons provide an excuse to harass men of color, then condoms do the same for queer folks and women.

LGBT civil rights and sex worker advocacy groups are fighting against the use of condoms as evidence. Mainstream feminism is not. A movement that rightly and vociferously fought pharmacists who refused to fill birth control prescriptions has remained largely silent about women being jailed for carrying another contraceptive.

Mainstream feminism might remember that the war on women always starts with the war on whores. Then, that category expands to include everyone but the white virgin tying her knees together in church. Until 1996, Ireland locked up unmarried moms and rape victims in Magdalene Laundries, where nuns worked them to death to cleanse their imaginary sins. The nuns built those Magdalene Laundries to imprison sex workers. Tens of thousands of women died within their walls, of every walk of life except the very wealthiest.

A bill to end the use of condoms as evidence was introduced in 1999. Health and civil rights organizations have been fighting to pass it ever since. Audacia Ray, founder of the sex workers activist organization the Red Umbrella Project says that while many politicians are supportive of the bill in private, they’re afraid to champion it publicly. They don’t want to be seen as pro-prostitution.

If you’re a New Yorker who thinks it’s wrong that folks are locked in cages for trying to protect themselves and their partners from HIV, you might give your state senator a call. No Condoms as Evidence has more details.

With sex workers, as with anyone, charity doesn’t change things. Solidarity does. Have you ever been outside on a sunny day, wearing shorts, a condom in your purse? Were you afraid of being arrested? Or were you a good woman? A member of the privileged class? Do you look away from official violence, until maybe, one day, it happens to you?

mustbeaweasley: jcatgrl: tomithejinglefish: chessieness: elli...

Sun, 23 Dec 2012 14:30:26 -0500

mustbeaweasley:

jcatgrl:

tomithejinglefish:

chessieness:

elliegreen:

fsufeminist:

bubonickitten:

soultired:

lostandsenseless:

soultired:

goldenheartedrose:

whoneedsfeminismdotorg:

One of the most powerful reasons to ‘need’ feminism.

Guess what? I’m autistic and I don’t touch people without their consent. You know what? You fucking teach your child what is and is not okay. It is a MYTH that autistic people can’t control ourselves. If your child grows up and touches people inappropriately, that is on YOU for not teaching them. Don’t act like he’s unteachable - no one is.

Woah.

How is this a goal of feminism? Letting people get away with assaulting other people is not feminism.

Isn’t he saying that feminism wants anyone who “touches” someone without conesent to be considered a sex offender? Or what is he saying? The wording is confusing.

Apparently autism means you can’t keep yourself from sexually assaulting people, so we need feminism to either make it so autistics can’t be put on the sex offender registry, or that sexual assault shouldn’t be valid for the sex offender registry, or…

Honestly, I have no fucking idea. I call troll or something.

…is OP really using his autistic son as a rhetorical device to support this men’s rights bullshit? What a tool. But what do you expect from someone who runs a blog with the sole aim of “fighting back against the lies and hatred of feminism” and reduces women’s views about their own lived experiences to “playing the female victim card”? Seriously, that entire blog is misogynistic as all hell.

Sexism AND ableism in one lovely package

(tw: unconsenual touching) You know what, I used to teach kids who had varying mental disorders art through a children’s art museum. Some of them were autistic, some of them had downs syndrome, some of them just had learning disabilities. I once had a child grab my breast. Calmly, I removed his hand and explained to him that that was inappropriate and you don’t touch people without asking. He didn’t know that what he had done was sexual, or even wrong. But he could be taught that it was inappropriate, and that it was wrong. When his parents came to pick him up, I explained to them what happened and they said that they were sorry and that this was the first time he had done something like that. Just because your child is disabled doesn’t mean his is incapable of learning right from wrong. NEVER underestimate your son’s understanding, because then YOU are the only one doing him a disservice, not society and most certainly not feminism.

I can’t deal with that blog, it makes me so angry oh my gosh

ughwow

#he’s probably not gonna learn it because his father is an ableist misogynistic fucker #great

Fuck this fucking guy. Raise your kid to respect women and personal space. Ignorant fuck.

All of this. None of that.

lacigreen: sosuperawesome: How to Make a Baby by photographer...

Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:53:30 -0500

lacigreen:

sosuperawesome:

How to Make a Baby by photographer Patrice Laroche and Sandra Denis, the mother of his new baby daughter Justine.

cutest pregnancy photo shoot of all tiem???

lacigreen: brute-reason: (via The Varieties of Intimate...

Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:51:45 -0500

lacigreen:

brute-reason:

(via The Varieties of Intimate Relationship)

a nice little chart touching on different relationship styles!

kendrawcandraw: Getting really tired of shit like this and this...

Sun, 16 Dec 2012 10:57:23 -0500

kendrawcandraw:

Getting really tired of shit like this and this and the above situation that happened to me this morning at 9AM and sometimes I get mad and comics come out

lacigreen: sapphrikah: ADDRESS THE SLUT-SHAMING, MANUELA....

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 09:45:14 -0500

lacigreen:

sapphrikah:

ADDRESS THE SLUT-SHAMING, MANUELA. I’M WITH YOU, GIRL.

She was a queen.

manny kept it real. the outrage in cheating scenarios often (not always) turns toward the woman - in general, bc people believe that men are horny animals who can’t control themselves. but women? they’re the gatekeepers! if some shit went down, she should have kept her legs shut, had more sex w/ him so he didn’t stray, etc.

lacigreen: legit: What most of you don’t realize is that...

Fri, 14 Dec 2012 09:43:23 -0500

lacigreen:

legit:

What most of you don’t realize is that that’s a guy under there. He’s got an eating disorder and was underweight when this show was filmed.

I hope that he’s better now but in the time this was taken, he was suffering heaps. It proves guys can have eating disorders just as much as girls can. Guys can hurt, guys can cry about their appearance. But the double stigma around anorexic guys stops a lot of them from going to treatment. Many of them will die. They need help…everyone whom suffers needs help, nobody deserves to feel like this.

In the last 2 years, men’s concern about their weight jumped 6% while women’s fell by 4%. Men make up 10-15% of those with eating disorders, but this number relies on self-reporting. As long as eating disorders are considered exclusively a “women’s issue”, this stigma will continue to quietly affect young men.

Fun historical fact, there used to be more gay and lesbian...

Wed, 12 Dec 2012 12:13:54 -0500

Fun historical fact, there used to be more gay and lesbian content in early silent films until religious groups protested resulting in “decency standards.”

Often Aggrivated: Author Scott Lynch responds to a critic of the character Zamira Drakasha, a black woman pirate in his fantasy book Red...

Mon, 10 Dec 2012 10:46:56 -0500

Often Aggrivated: Author Scott Lynch responds to a critic of the character Zamira Drakasha, a black woman pirate in his fantasy book Red...:

captxandri:

drneverland:

gorgoneions:

downlo:

zillah975:

last-snowfall:

fuckyeahscifiwomenofcolour:

The bolded sections represent quotes from the criticism he received. All the z-snaps are in order.

Your characters are unrealistic stereotpyes of…

lacigreen: ethiopienne: perolyke: this is literally the...

Fri, 07 Dec 2012 10:20:31 -0500

lacigreen:

ethiopienne:

perolyke:

this is literally the best post I’ve ever seen

hell fucking yes

miles is too much perfect cant handle

repsychus: l katyamola: tuki-tuki-tuki: biculturallatina: gir...

Fri, 07 Dec 2012 01:06:48 -0500

repsychus:

l

katyamola:

tuki-tuki-tuki:

biculturallatina:

girljanitor:

tangledcurles:

girljanitor:

toonsketchbook:

Okay so I know this is kinda taboo but anyways.

Frida Kahlo: Not too easy on the eyes. I mean she’s got the lady-mo and the monobrow thing going on. She didn’t know where to put her blush or what shade lipstick would obviously suit her skin tone. Really, she’s a bit of a wreck. So this got me to thinking. What would have happened if her girlfriends had done the right thing and taken her to a beautician, (which clearly needed to happen)? I did a subtle re-paint over the top of her original self-portrait to “conceptualize” what it would have looked like if she had been whisked off to Beauty Works or the likes….I didn’t want to alter the integrity of the original painting too much. What do you reckon?

Did you really just skin-lighten a Frida Kahlo self portait

and remove her facial hair

and call her “a wreck”

and then say she couldn’t choose a fucking lipstick to suit her skin tone

after you changed her skin tone

how can one person be everything that is wrong with the world at once

I don’t think she changed her skin tone but still.. ! What the fuck are you doing? Who cares about making her beautiful by western beauty industry standards. You’re going against everything that makes her really beautiful. Frida had a bunch of fucked up shit happen to her, unibrow and all. And she wore her facial hair with pride. It’s part of who she was and what made her a strong, proud, awesome woman and symbol of feminism. The fact that you consider her friends not taking her to a salon to ‘fix’ her ‘flaws’, wrong. Only serves to show how shallow you really are. You don’t have to buy in to the shit they sell you to be beautiful. And fuck you, photoshop pictures of yourself next time.

I beg to differ.

Removing the lowlights and expanding the midtones and highlights to cover previously dark areas in order to “even out” the skintone counts as “lightening”.

Here’s a half-and-half comparison to better see what was done here:

This is basically what most hydroquinone skin-bleaching creams are touted to do.

if you think that standard western beauty is the only issue here, you’re also wrong.

many many layers of stupid and colonizer mentality here.

I looked at 1 page of the op’s blog. many drawings, not 1 poc

op conceptualized a tan white woman is what he did.

and beauty is the only issue here? nope.

This is also just not isolated to the OP.

There has been a ridiculous and worrying trend (existing since forever, but intensifying as of late) in White-oriented fashion, art and beauty media of “beautifying” Frida Kahlo. This usually means casting white models to portray her and giving them a flower wreath.

But, it isn’t limited to that, like in this repulsive photoshoot that cast the palest-of-the-pale and then captured her looking submissive and sad.

Frida wasn’t conventionally beautiful and she knew it. She was an iconoclast and a revolutionary. She was a woman who suffered pain daily and who transformed Mexican art forever. Beautiful is the most timid and weak compliment among all the things Frida Kahlo was.

OH MY GOD THIS MAKES ME UNBELIEVABLY MAD

HOW COULD ANYONE THINK THIS THING WAS A GOOD IDEA. HOW. THE FUCK.

There is not, and never will be, enough middle fingers in the universe to portray the amount of ‘fuck you’ I feel towards this white-faux-beauty mentality.

She is beautiful because she doesn’t need to be, and is proud not to fall into the same rut as people like the OP.

biggestbaddestwolf: obesitycore: ccc vaginapowersactivate: we-...

Wed, 05 Dec 2012 11:22:54 -0500

biggestbaddestwolf:

obesitycore:

ccc

vaginapowersactivate:

we-are-star-stuff:

ihopeyouareabletoable:

h-plus:

leftybegone:

I would totally put my face 4 inches from her chest and scream, “I’M SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW!” And I’d make a point never to take my eyes off her boobs until she got so uncomfortable and creeped out that she decided to leave, go back home, sit on her bed in the dark, and think about how completely stupid she was to write “STILL NOT ASKING FOR IT” while asking for it.

This woman’s a disgrace.

But she’s not asking for it. This is a human body, nothing more, nothing less. It’s not being sexualized, in fact, she’s covered her nipples too. I’m sorry, h-plus, that you feel that your body and the body of other women should be considered a disgrace. Do you feel uncomfortable when looking at pictures in the doctor’s office of a woman’s naked body? And do you, leftybegone, get uncontrollably horny at the same sight? Control your python (or garden snake), man, you’re not 12. Have some maturity over the matter. If you did that to that woman, leftybegone, you’d just be putting a bad face on us guys, making us seem like sex-crazed, immature horndogs. Maybe you are one, but I’m tired people making that assumption of us as a gender. It’s disgraceful. She wouldn’t think it was stupid of her to do that if you did. You’d just make her movement more powerful.

Rape (noun):the crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.

Men aren’t primal fucking animals. They’re humans that are completely capable of resisting their urges. I bet you (leftybegone) are a kid with some serious hormones since you, obviously, can’t control yourself.

“She was asking for it”. Really? Can you really blame an individual for someone else’s lack of control? The mere fact that a woman is more likely to be assaulted if she wears certain types of clothing does not make it right. She could walk around naked and that still doesn’t excuse rape. The solution to the problem is not for women to “dress less slutty” but for men to realize that a woman’s choice of dress is not an open invitation to sexual assault.

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So lefty would sexually harass her and then wonder what happened if he got punched or got the cops called on him.